You Are Allowed to Love Someone and Still Let Them Go

Not all endings are black and white. Some are not about falling out of love, growing apart, or realizing you were never meant to be. Some endings happen even when the love was real, deep, and undeniable.

Because sometimes, love exists alongside pain.

We talk so much about leaving toxic relationships—the ones built on manipulation, abuse, or repeated betrayal. But what about the love that was good? The one that felt like home, where two people saw and chose each other completely?

What about the love that was true… except for the part where it wasn’t?

When Their Demons Become Your Pain

They truly loved you. That’s the hardest part.

You know it wasn’t a lie, not a game, not something they took lightly. They looked at you like you were their future. They held you in a way that made you feel safe. They dreamed with you, planned with you, promised you forever.

And yet, there was another part of them—the part that carried battles you couldn’t fight for them. Wounds they never healed. Demons they never defeated.

You saw it, didn’t you? The way they wrestled with their past, their insecurities, the shadows of their own self-doubt. And maybe they fought for a while. Maybe they tried to love you the right way, to keep their pain from bleeding into something so beautiful.

But eventually, the weight of their demons led to betrayal.

Not because they didn’t love you, but because they didn’t love themselves enough to protect what they had with you.

And that’s the cruelest kind of heartbreak—the one where love wasn’t enough to save the relationship.

Letting Go Without Hate

When someone betrays you, the world expects you to be angry. To hate them. To erase every good moment and replace it with bitterness.

But what if you don’t want to?

What if, despite everything, you still see the best in them? What if, even after the betrayal, you still wish they had chosen differently—not just for you, but for themselves?

Here’s the truth: You don’t have to hate them to let them go.

You don’t have to rewrite your love story as a mistake.

You don’t have to pretend they never meant anything to you.

You don’t have to let their demons become yours.

You are allowed to love them and still walk away.

You are allowed to grieve what could have been while honoring what actually was.

You are allowed to let them go—not because you wanted to, but because you had to.

And that’s not weakness. That’s love—the kind that is strong enough to say: I love you, but I love myself, too.

If you’ve ever had to let go of someone you still loved, I see you. Let’s heal together. ❤️ -Heartfully Nicole